Why Twin Flames Hurt Each Other (And What to Do)
You’ll hear a lot of great things about the twin flame journey but the honest truth is it’s not always smooth sailing. More often than not twin flames hurt each other especially in the earlier stages of the journey.
While these stages can be absolutely agonizing (I’ve been there) I can tell you two things.
- It’s worth it.
- There’s a reason for this hurt. We’ll get to that in a moment.
If you’re struggling on your twin flame journey, tell me what you’re going through and get a twin flame reading.
If you aren’t aware of this, your twin flame represents the other part of your soul. Unlike a soulmate, you can only have one twin flame. It’s common to mistake your soulmate as your twin flame as they both have similar characteristics. However, when you cross paths with your twin flame, you’ll know for sure. Your twin flame may share your soul, but it doesn’t guarantee it will be a perfect connection. In fact, twin flames hurt each other more often than you realize. So why do twin flames hurt each other?
#1 You feel what they feel
One of the characteristics that come with crossing paths with your twin flame is that they feel precisely as you do. Your anger, frustration, stress, anxiety, joy, and happiness is to be felt by your twin flame the same as you do. This is the most common reason why twin flames hurt each other — it’s an inevitable factor. Oftentimes, it can be too intense, powerful, and overwhelming, especially if you aren’t used to being exposed to all kinds of emotions at once. In feeling this way, know that your twin flame doesn’t intend on doing this intentionally to you — it can also act the other way around. You can both be guilty of unintentionally hurting each other with everything you feel and it doesn’t have to be a personal matter. You and your twin flame will overwhelm each other with what you feel and this is completely normal. You shouldn’t take this against your twin flame since it’s all part of the divinity of twin flame connections.
#2 You separate from your twin flame
Another common reason for hurting each other is when separation is present. Even as you’ve already crossed paths with your twin flame, it doesn’t guarantee that it will last forever. People come into our lives for various reasons, and the same goes for twin flames. It’s either you find a way to make your twin flame connection last or you part ways into your separate lives. It may be hard to accept, but your twin flame has a separate life before meeting you — and the same goes for you. They will unintentionally hurt you when you go your separate ways, especially when one or both of you aren’t ready for the intensity of each other. A twin flame connection is the most powerful and overwhelming kind of connection you’ll ever have with anyone and it’s for this reason that not everyone handles this with class and grace. Some of the reasons for separation are one of you is in a relationship, married, or going through a divorce. These reasons are valid enough to walk away from the connection, no matter how powerful it can be. Your role as their twin flame is to let them go and have faith that they’ll find their way back to you when they’re ready as your twin flame.
#3 You are healing and recovering
As already mentioned, you and your twin flame encourage each other to become better versions of yourself, and oftentimes, this means healing and restoration. There’s nothing easy about healing from past trauma and events that have hurt you and it’s common for you and your twin flame to hurt each other. You both don’t intend to but it happens naturally since you open each other’s wounds to help one another face your demons and past baggage. Realize that your twin flame is simply trying to help you accept and move on with certain things in your life and the same goes for their life. Your connection is a divine and powerful one, which means it requires being the most vulnerable and honest versions of each other. If one of you — or both of you — are afraid of this kind of openness and intimacy, you will get hurt eventually. This is also where one of you becomes the runner and the other the chaser, where one runs away and the other runs after. Again, not everyone is ready for a twin flame relationship because of its intensity, which is why there are a huge tendency and risk to run away from this. It’s far more powerful than any relationship you’ve ever had in this past as a twin flame relationship is nothing you’ve ever experienced before.
#4 They aren’t what you expected — and vice versa
When one of you becomes the runner in the relationship, it’s a tendency to act cold, distant, and emotionally unavailable even without intending to do so. In this situation, you are likely to get cold by their apathy and coldness, trying to understand the core reason for this behavior. When a runner does this, they aren’t ready for you or are running away from something in the relationship. They may be afraid of confrontation or of the intense emotions that come in meeting you. These are things that could cause one to be the runner and chasing after them will hurt the other inevitably. When this happens, the chaser should let the runner be alone and figure things out. Since you feel what the other feels, more likely you know precisely why they’re feeling and acting this way. To help them stop building a wall around you, act as their twin flame and help them confront their fears and anxieties — whether it’s a personal issue or something in the relationship.
In conclusion, I hope this was able to shed insight into the reasons why you could potentially hurt each other in a twin flame connection. While it’s the most powerful and divine connection, you will hurt each other, similar to any mundane relationship. However, the pain one of you feels is often meaningful and leading you towards the next step of your relationship. For instance, when one of you gets hurt by separation, the next step would be the realization that you can’t just run away from a twin flame relationship.
